my 10 month old still doesn't sleep through the night. he needs a bottle to go to bed otherwise he'll whine and cry and won't go to sleep. and then he gets up around 3ish wanting another bottle. then around 5. i don't know what to do. i tried giving him water instead of formula he just cries and throws the bottle.

also, to know this is bad, my son still sleeps with me. i've tried to put him in his crib but once he hits that mattress he wakes up and screams. he's the type of baby that won't cry himself to sleep so he just cries and cries.

any suggestions on how to fix these problems?
because i have none :(

Aww hun, sounds like a nightmare.

I was very lucky with my son (and still am, he's a dream)

With regards to waking, is there something waking him up at those specific times? Heating going off, coming on, alarm clocks, neighbours coming in/going out from work? I think at 10months it is still feesable that he needs a bottle before bed. Charlie still has milk before he goes to bed (he's 20months).

I would still only offer water when he wakes in the night and dont go back to giving milk at those times. Eventually he will learn that waking in the night and crying dont constitute a bottle of milk. Does he eat solids well? Maybe he needs more in the day and for his dinner so he has a full tummy when he goes to bed. What is his daytime routine like? Does he nap in the day? I found if Charlie didnt nap well in the day he didnt sleep well at night, but every child is different, maybe he doesnt need naps in the day and then he will sleep through the night. Unfortuantely its all trial and error until he can tell you whats wrong. 

With regards to moving him from your bed to his crib, have you tried putting something in his crib with him that smells of you? I cant offer any more advice on that as i havent experienced it.

OOh just one more thought, perhaps the waking is because he is teething? any signs of that?

Hope that helps a bit, I've written a bit of an essay there, Im definately not an expert, those are just some of the tried and tested methods i have come across on my birth boards.

xxx

there should be no reason for him getting up in the middle of the night. he is teething but you can tell when it's his teeth and when it's not and that's not a big deal. i think he wakes up because he's so used to getting a bottle bc he's been having bottles at those times ever since he was born. it just in his routine i guess. i would try giving him water tonight but i'm living with my boyfriend and his mom in an apt. and it's so small i can't have him crying all night bc they both have to get up in the morning and i don't want to upset them. bc those two people are NOT morning people. lol. but we are fixing to move so that will change when we do but for now i have to stick with the bottles at all hours of the night unfortunately.

and this little boy eats everything and anything in sight. he's a fatty. lol. he takes two naps. and if he misses one i think he sleeps longer through the night but then i have to deal with a cranky baby all evening so thats no bueno.

 my opinion on the crib situation is that he feels more comfortable with me and my big ol' body next to him. i've tried to surround him with pillows and stuffed animals so it makes him think that it's me or another person but it doesn't work. he just hates it. but i should try putting something in there. but i don't know what smells like me. i smell like nothing it seems lol. i don't wear perfume unless i'm going out which is rare due to him ya know? i guess a dirty but clean shirt would do? lol

yes, something you have worn, maybe your tshirt you have had on for the day put that in the crib with him, you may think you smell of nothing but i think its pretty distinctive to a baby.

Hope you get the moving situation sorted soon, that cant be easy for you. Hard enough to get your child into a routine without taking other people into consideration.

Controlled crying really worked for us (took 1 day) but as you say thats not an option where you are right now, another method is the pick up put down. When he cries pick him up as soon as he stops put him down then when he cries again pick him up etc etc.

Here's a website with some good sleeping tips I think you have to register to read the answers

http://www.contentedbaby.com/FAQ_Sleeping_9-12months.htm

Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight

I had the same type of problem.  Feeding them a bottle is not always the answer either.  My baby would wake up gassy some nights after falling asleep with a bottle in her mouth.  I found some excellent advice in a book I found online.  It basically describes all the different methods used to put babies to sleep and help them sleep through the night.  It helped us alot.  The link is at:

http://offto.net/babysleepthroughnight

I hope that this helps.  This woman has worked extensively with babies and gynocologists, so she has seen many cases of this.  Good luck!

This is a very
helpful article on how to calm your newborn and soothe him when he is suffering
from colic or gas problems.

How to Use the
Rocking and Motion Method to Calm Your Newborn

Most of us dream about having a
newborn baby, and then when we do have one, we can’t dream due to not getting
to sleep because of the constant crying of our infant.

Most likely, if your baby is crying
constantly, he or she is suffering from colic. 
This is very common in newborn babies from the age of two weeks up to
the age of four months.  So, what can you
possibly do to get a good night’s sleep some time within those four months, if
your baby has colic?  Good question!

One way to help you and your baby
get some much needed relief is by using the rocking and motion technique to
alleviate the colic.  This has been
proven to be a very effective way to help with colic. It’s best to hold the
baby on his or her side when rocking him or her as this technique can really
help in keeping your baby calm.  However,
be certain to always support your baby’s head and neck when rocking him or her.

Listed below are some different
techniques for using the rocking and motion technique:

1.     
Method #1 – This consists of the traditional rocking
motion that most people use to put their babies to sleep. It’s just a gentle
swaying back and forth.  It does work for
some, but not for all.

2.     
Method #2 – This is the same as the first method, but
with much faster and smaller motions. 
You should aim to go back and forth about twice a second, or even a
little faster.

3.     
Method #3 – This method is more like vibrating than
rocking, and involves holding the baby and shaking it as if were shivering.  This can get tiresome, so many parents may
choose to hold the baby on their lap and vibrate one of their legs up and
down.  It’s mainly the upper body of the
baby that you want to vibrate, but be certain you support his or her head and
neck while doing this.

4.     
 Method #4 - This
method is a little more complicated. 
Begin by holding your left hand out, palm up, elbow bent, and then place your
baby on your hand so your hand is under his or her chest and your left forearm
or wrist is under his or her crotch. Finally, bring your baby close to your
chest and use your other arm to support his or her head and neck while wrapping
your right hand around to hold his or her side and bottom. This should allow
your baby to be draped over your left hand with his or her arms and legs
dangling toward the floor. You can then support the head and neck with your
right arm.

Hopefully one of these methods will help your
baby.  There are many more techniques
(These are just a few from the e-book), but this should give you a start.  Best of luck to you.

“This information was taken from the free
e-book, “The Parent’s Guide to Calming a Crying Baby.” 

Al
Lipper's experience includes child psychology, teaching and professional
writing. He and his wife Aurora have two boys (both of whom had colic). If you
would like more methods for helping your baby with colic, feel free to download
a free copy of their e-book "The parent's guide to calming a crying
baby" from www.ThePeacefulBaby.com.